A good way to do this is to listen to what you say to
yourself and to others. Too often we repeat negatively charged words out
of sheer habit. For instance, if you sprinkle your conversation with
woulda, coulda, shoulda or gonna, you are negatively charging yourself.
Another thing you don't want to do is kill your
dreams before you realize them. The word "but" and all of his
family are dream killers. "But" is a word that forces
limitations on us. "But" lets us procrastinate and gives us an
excuse for not living our dreams. For instance, did you ever say to
yourself, "I could have done whatever it was but... something got in the
way"? I know I have. "But" allows us to validate our
Remember, you need to look for reasons to move
forward, not for excuses why you are standing still. Because if you don't
take direct action in life, you will always be reacting to what life throws at
you. Take it from me, that is no fun at all.
That is why it is important to listen to yourself, so
that you are always positively charging yourself.
Here are a few easy things you can do that will keep
you on the right path.
1. Become a human Geiger counter tuned to
negative thoughts and words. Listen for the "buts," "couldas,"
"wouldas," "shouldas," and "gonnas," and replace
them with "I will." Then schedule what you want to do and do it.
2. Think about all the times you may have
reacted negatively in the past and envision what would have happened if you had
acted positively to these situations. Next, think about any current
situations where you need to act positively and envision what will happen when
you do take positive action.
3. This week concentrate on responding only in
a positive manner to everyone and everything. Imitate positively charged
people you know or have read about. Think about how they would react to whatever
situation you find yourself in, and do what you think they would do. Don't
criticize or judge your actions, just do it.
At the end of the week, write down all the things you
accomplished with this new attitude.
Do these things and you will stay positively